Today I read and comment on the Guardian’s Article

‘My mother announced that I had become a woman’: why conversations about menstruation are so important:” by @Rachel Kauder Nalebuff

Hi everybody, Christine Marie quicklace here, and I very possibly might be your holistic menstrual coach. Why? Because I am obsessed with healthy Wilms. And I find that in light of there being access to solutions for the wilm access to menstrual order access to menstrual balance, there is no reason for us to continue suffering or to proliferate the message that suffering and comfort is doing the best that we can. Because it's not, not anymore. As I read in a recent book, my grandpa's autobiography, he said, when he was speaking about the black civil rights movement, and the access to medical societies for black doctors, prior to desegregation, he said, We refused to settle for half a loaf. I refuse to settle for half a loaf. And so until everybody can get on board, I'm going to keep reminding you that there is such a thing as a whole loaf of bread. Or as I like to say, the whole enchilada, because I love Mexican food. We do have access to that. It's called pain free periods. It's called minstrel alignment. And when we can all agree that we have a right to pain free periods, we have a right to PMS recycles, when that is just common knowledge. We'll have our whole loaf of bread. And in the meantime, let's minster writers find our way to pain free PMS recycles individually, we don't have to have a confrontation about it. You don't have to announce I'm in minstrel alignment. All we have to do is show up in our wholeness. The rest takes care of itself. So let's read this article. As you know, I'm going to read this article. Verbatim. I might have a few asides, but I'm going to try my best to do it verbatim. I really love this author Rachel color nail buff. Her book just recently came out let me remember the title. I recently read a review of it for another one of our articles. It's called our our red book, intimate conversations about periods by Rachel Kaldur nail birth. And now I'm going to read this article from her. It's called my mother announced that I had become a woman. Why conversations about menstruation are so important. This is from The Guardian. And particularly from the section titled The observer on the topic of menstruation, which is really cool that that is a standard topic. Here it goes. When Rachel Caulder nail buff had her first period it was broadcast to her wider family to her intense shame. sharing the experience unearthed a treasure chest of stories which became her new anthology, our red book, at a family Passover Seder in Queens, I was sitting at the kids table like every other year of my life beforehand, clinking glasses, my mother announced to my extended family that I had, quote, become a woman in quote, looking back on it I understand this moment in the day of my first period as my first of many encounters with shame. My Taunton Nina, my great aunt must recognize something in me. Later that night in her bedroom, which smelled like cat litter and had everyone's winter coats piled onto the bed, she told me a story. It was only after my great aunt shared her story that my other family members started talking, a pattern emerged. I would talk to one relative who would say, oh, but you really need to talk to my friend who was a twin or there's a girl I know who got her period on September 11. And then that person would say, this makes me want to ask my mother or grandmother because I've never heard any of these stories either. And so stories started coming my way in little floods. After years of listening to people's accounts, something in me changed. I began to see history as it lives under the skin and pulses through us. But why did I feel comfortable talking about periods now at the age of 30. For years, I felt embarrassed. Then later, I felt embarrassed about the fact that I still felt embarrassed yet I couldn't help but feel it, we can take ourselves only so far on our own, especially in opposition to shame, which is a force outside ourselves. Thankfully, the collective culture around me changed bit by bit and carried me as part of the tide. This is the reason why I believe in sharing these intimate stories about menstruation and history as they live under the skin and pulse through us. We are changed by what we read and encounter in ways we don't even realize until Sunday there is a critical mass of people who have been changed in miniscule ways to and when we recognize one another it feels possible to speak. I can't say this is my first time as I've been lying since sixth grade. A quote from Judy Blume it's March a month past my 14th birthday and I still haven't had it. One day after school my mom my mother picks me up and says we're going to see her lady doctor that Dr isn't a lady. He's a cold formal older man. I'm scared out of my mind when without warning or explanation, he gives me a pelvic exam. No one prepared me for this. I don't want his hands inside me pushing. It hurts. Nevermind that he later assures my mother I'm normal and will get my period. I saw up all the way home furious at my mother for betraying me this way. Why don't you tell me what he would do? Why didn't you tell me what he would do? I repeat over and over. But my mother has no answer. She seems surprised by my strong reaction. That April my friend Steli invites me to spend the weekend at her family's lake house. When we're getting ready for bed. I pulled on my underpants and see a sticky brownish stain. I have no idea what this could be. Maybe I didn't wait properly you I bought my underpants and stuff them into the pocket of my suitcase. That night. The sticky brown stain is back again. I bought my underpants and hide them with the others. It doesn't even cross my mind that it could be my period. Not until Sunday morning when I sit on the toilet and feel something ooze out of me. It's unmistakable. It's blood. It's my period. I'm ecstatic. But I can't say anything because then Steli will know this is my first time and I've been lying since sixth grade. I nonchalantly asked her for a pad. Her mother sweetly asks, Is this your first time? Oh no, I tell her, but I didn't expect it because I'm a regular. When I get home from my weekend with Steli I tell my mother my news. I got it for real. I say my mother tells my father who congratulates me. I feel like the luckiest girl alive. It's not so much that I'm a woman is that I'm normal. And maybe now at last I'll grow breasts. Years later, I'll write a book about a girl who is as desperate for her period as I was for mine. Judy Bloom is an author her many books include Are you there God, it's me, Margaret. If men had periods they brag about how long and how much a quote from Gloria Steinem. In the 1970s Gloria Steinem wrote an essay called if men convinced rate at the time that the essay was published, it was viewed as satire. So what would happen if suddenly magically men convinced your weight and women could not? Clearly menstruation would become an enviable, boast worthy masculine event, men would brag about how long and how much young boys would talk about it as the envied beginning of manhood, gifts, religious ceremonies and stag parties would mark the day to prevent monthly work loss among the powerful Congress would fund the National Institute of dysmenorrhea. Sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free statistical surveys which show that men won more Olympic medals during their periods. Politicians would cite ministration men situation as proof that only men could serve in combat, you have to give blood to take blood, or be God Himself, He gave this blood for our sins. Male liberals would insist that women are equal just different, and that any woman could join the ranks If only you were willing to self inflict a major wound every month. Of course, intellectuals would argue that without that biological gift for measuring the cycles of the moon, how could a woman master any discipline that demanded the ability to measure anything at all, menopause would be celebrated as a positive event, the symbol that men had accumulated enough years of cyclical wisdom to need no more. In short, we would discover, as we should already have guessed that logic is in the eye of the logician. The truth is that if men can menstruate, the power justifications would go on and on, if we let them. postscript postscript over the deck over the decades since I wrote, If men convinced rate, the subject of women administration has become way more likely to be talked about, and also to be the subject of serious and respectful study. That's partly because women are much more likely to do the studying, and also because a critical mass of studies have confirmed the fact that human beings are more alike than different indeed, in 1972, Ms. Magazine published an article by Dr. Estelle Ramey Rainey, it explained that men have monthly cycles to in Japan where high speed trains had a tragic accident rate. That rate was cut in half by male workers becoming aware of their lunar cycles. What needs studying now is the pressure that masculinity puts on men to dominate, to measure success by the failure of others and to resist caring for children or other work that requires simple human kindness. Both women and men are paying high price for this myth. Gloria Steinem is a writer, political activist and feminist organizer. And I have to also say, a Smith College graduate a sniffy like me. Next. I was on the train arriving from Poland at the German border. A quote from Nina Bassman, I was 13. It was 1940. We were fleeing Poland and the deportation of the Jews. The atrocities committed by the Germans were getting worse. ghettos were being formed. My uncle's in Belgium and France went through enormous troubles to obtain visas and passage for us to get out. To reach Belgium, we had to pass through Germany. My story takes place on the train arriving from Poland at the German border crossing. The train stopped and we were told to get completely undressed for the custom guards to see us. The guards were mostly searching for hidden jewelry and they looked in the most private places. It was horrible. I had hidden my yellow striped David in my shoe, but it was discovered in my fright. I completely lost it and peed in my pants. But when I looked down, what I saw was actually a stream of red. I raced into the compartment and my mother saw what was happening. She rushed to the toilets at the end of the train and grabbed lots of rolls of toilet paper, one of which she shoved into my underwear. She was somehow able to do this so discreetly that my two sisters and brother never knew about this. She was free to me that now I was going to be a big girl on whom
she was going to have to depend that this would happen every month. But most important she told me in Belgium and France where we were heading. They had excellent napkins much better than in Poland. Nina Bassman was a quote hidden child during the Holocaust. Having your period was kept completely secret, a quote from Xiao Ling during the Cultural Revolution in China toilet paper was tightly rationed. This was really discrimination against having girls. My family with three girls used to cope by taking the coarser brown paper towels and cutting them up in strips for everyday bathroom use, so as to save the toilet paper for when we had our periods. Since I was the second oldest. I knew what to expect, but I was still anxious. I knew the arrival of my period would put a strain on our supply. At the time, having your period was something to be kept completely secret. The day it arrived. My family and I were scheduled to do our manual labor in a local park planting and cleaning up. My parents offered to write a note to excuse me for my work, but I insisted that I go, I was so sure that such a note would instantly expose what was happening. Shelving emigrated to the US with her family after the Tiananmen Square Massacre. I wanted the world to know a quote from Florence given most girls in my class would smuggle their tampons to the toilet, hiding them under their sleep so that no one noticed not me. I wanted the world to know. I keep a Tampax Pearl stashed in my leopard print sequin pencil case and fold as if on it slowly, the gesture so intentionally prolonged that it would draw the attention of the girls closest to me. Like a child who dresses up in her mom's clothes. I was mirroring the behavior of the older girls I looked up to on reflection. It was a little performance entirely for the female gaze. Florence given is an illustrator, artist and author of the best selling book. Women don't owe you pretty. Virginity was sacrosanct. So we weren't able to wear tampons. A quote from key from key comatose in Latino culture, so it'd be key comatose. In Latino culture. Getting your period is a significant event. A time when you become a senior Rita when my other two sisters got their periods my mother announced it to the family at the dinner table with great pride. That was a bit much for me. I was 14 when mine finally arrived. It was in the morning and I was on my way to school. I simply changed my underwear, put on a sanitary napkin and went to school. My mother found out eventually when she asked me about it, she was clearly hurt that I had not voluntarily shared this intimacy with her. It would be a full year before she finally agreed to buy his tampons, preserving your virginity until marriage was sacrosanct. Unfortunately, unfortunately, that also meant not being able to wear tampons until you were married. Less to tamper with your hymen. The three of us girls rebelled at the dinner table one night we said most of our girlfriends at school wore tampons, and that impeded our ability to play sports especially swimming. When my father spoke up in our support, she relented relief. For me being able to wear tampons was a more momentous occasion than getting my period. Kike Matos is a lawyer, social justice advocate and organizer who now lives in New Haven, Connecticut. I stood up and my skirt stuck to me a quote from Nina Bentley. I think I was in the seventh grade I had moved from a private school class of 12 to a public school class of 400. And it just cut off my braids and got my first bra. In class. One day I stood up and my skirt stuck to me. I twisted around and saw a blood stain on my tan cord skirt. It was only as big as a 50 cent piece but it seemed huge. Quickly I twisted my skirt around to the front and with my ballpoint pen colored in the spot. That was the official beginning of my career as an artist and the beginning of my staining many many things. Upholstered Louie the 14th chairs at the Ritz Carlton in London, and myriad mattresses around the world, not to mention most of my clothes. And even though my period was regular almost to the day each month for about 40 years, it always came as a surprise. I was never prepared and with about nine pregnancies when the doctor asked and when was your last period I never ever knew. Nina Bentley is a visual artist whose work often deals with women's social issues. That is the end of the article

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Christine Marie Quigless is a Menstrual Suffering Finisher and Transformational Speaker and Coach who enjoys a lifelong fascination of habit-hacking and creating breakthroughs within systems for the uplift of all beings. Her most recent breakthrough was finding a zero-substance, which = zero-risk solution, to eradicate pain, PMS, and symptoms of Menstrual Disorders through her proprietary system, Fierce Gentleness™ . How does it work? The Fierce Gentleness™ results prove that the womb is not broken, just out of balance, so we balance it and up-level our lives in the process because the world needs us at our full power: now, more than ever.

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